Here’s a stereotype that I’m sick of….

Disclaimer: this post is about my experience of Aspergers Syndrome, and is relative to my own experience. But I cannot take responsibility for any action taken as a result of reading this. 

I’m tired. Really I am. And not in the ‘physical sense’. I am SICK and tired of being stereotyped, based on my ASD.

Rainman isn’t the set standard for people on the spectrum, although it seems to have been perceived as such. What’s forgotten is how nuanced the spectrum can be. There’s a set perceived view point, and that’s how we all are, apparently. (I detest being stereotyped so much that I just had to put it into a post.)

I am also not a ‘math’s genius’.

And I am tired of being perceived as lacking in Empathy-there isn’t just one type, one set way of being so-as well as not caring, unemotional, etc. These are all based on assumptions, and although they are hallmarks of the spectrum, I feel it is unfair to characterise us all as being alike to what I just described.

Thank you for listening,

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The Summer Of Impossible Things Release: Here’s What You Need To Know. 


Rowan Coleman’s latest novel, The Summer Of Impossible Things, is out later this month. And here is what you need to know about it.

  • It’s significantly longer than her previous works.
  • Expect some time travel throughout the book; it is sort of fantasy/thriller/drama. However, it forms quite an important part of the book.
  • This book will make you cry. Proper big gulpy sobs. Like her other books.
  • Family is the theme at the centre.
  • There’s one narrator, Luna.
  • It’s set in Brooklyn, United States.
  • There are so many twists!
  • What you read may surprise you.

The Summer Of Impossible Things is out later this month, on June 29th.

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“What does it feel like to have Aspergers?”

“What does it feel like to have Aspergers?” 

It’s a question that I’ve been asked previously, and one that I’ve struggled to respond to. To have Aspergers is completely subjective, as it’s a condition that’s on a Spectrum; so what I may write in this post may differ from the experience of other people.

It feels isolating.

The amount of times just trying to talk to someone, but they have laughed at me, or made me feel uncomfortable, because of my lack of eye contact, flat voice, etc is something that I have lost count of. For years I did try to ‘fit in’ to whatever clique was dominating whatever school I was at; here’s a spoiler for you. It doesn’t work. I was the one who wanted to talk about politics, or to discuss Cold War history. That’s not what counts as ‘usual’ for a teenager, is it? 

It can feel lonely.

It seems like being in your own world at times, locked away, unable to communicate at the best of times. I don’t want to just sit, talking about boys, hair or make up. There has got to be more to life than this!

It feels as if I am winning, because of a special interest.

Special interests can be subjective to everyone; mine usually revolved around History and people. But it helped with what I would study, because there were so many links that I could make with what I already knew, meaning that I could get to grips with the subject more easily. And that is a good feeling, because I would otherwise struggle with a lot of subjects.

It feels like an unfair fight.

Because so many people do not understand. And I don’t understand so many things, because of the idea that I should inhabit a neurotypical world, rather than my own. It’s not helpful, and I’ve had to deal with this a lot. 

It feels like something gained, not something lost.

To be diagnosed with Aspergers was an end to a very long game; it was just so obvious to me that I was different from my classmates, therefore logically I thought of myself as being ‘on spectrum’. But knowledge gained is something good; I haven’t lost anything, and there’s nothing to loose. 

It feels as if I am NOT broken.

Because anyone with Aspergers or Autism does not need to be repaired. They are not broken, or at fault. Be supportive in this sense; to be autistic or on spectrum is NOT a travesty, or something to be mocked.

It can feel scary. 

Could we look at being on the spectrum as being something positive, just for once? Yes, it can be scary, because of places with a lot of people, unfiltered noise, etc. But there’s something powerful in it; we can specialise in a given topic, remember a lot of things, and create what we wish. This is something that is a strength, and maybe not something that somebody neurotypical has. Use it to your advantage. Hans Asperger described people on spectrum as being ‘Little professors’. And there should be no shame in that. 

Thank you for listening,

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Why I’m Changing To A Paperchase Organiser From A Filofax…

Don’t get me wrong; my Filofax has been my lifeline for a long time now, in organising every role I have to inhibit-the student, the columnist, the blogger, the wannabe journalist. And by the title of this post, I wish not to sound disparaging towards Filofax; it really has been a good brand to me as a consumer.

But I wish to upgrade my planner.

The personal size is just too small now; everything is now crammed into a tiny space. And it’s really daunting to see everything crammed into one page-just look above. It leads me to feel as if I do not accomplish a lot, in spite of the hours put in.

Later this year, I’ll also be taking on more roles; I’ll be working to pay rent, studying for a Journalism diploma, filing stories as often as possible, and launching my blog as a business. (You may have noticed that I switched round the pages, added a few widget, and changed the background colour.) This needs more space!

Whenever I go into my local Smiths, they rarely have any A5 Filofaxes in stock, due to being a small, local franchise. But when I go into Paperchase, it has a wide range…. (you can see where I’m going with this, can’t you?) I can’t wait to show you my new planner.

 

 

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“Why do you blog?”

* Let’s call these ‘questioning’ posts FAQ’S, just for the sake of argument-and if you have a question, you could always ask me in the comments. Anyway… *

I started blogging way back in 2012, having kept a magazine cutting from Shout! that had inspired me. Needless to say, I was a lonely pre-teen, and as a teenager. Blogging seemed really glamorous-an almost secret world that I badly wanted to be part of.

For the first two and a half years, it was something that I messed around with, seeing it merely as a hobby, a past time. (And my blog name was based on my Bluetooth name- Musiclover25. Urggghhh!) I added excessive amounts of pages, wrote little, posted not enough.

That changed as I grew older.

I had known that I had wanted to be a writer for a long time now-because words were and are all that I’m good at. I just wasn’t sure how-would I write books, poetry? I stopped messing round, deleted the pages, and started posting regularly. I began to write about fashion. (Ha ha ha ha ha!)

Gem Fatale was still in its prime then; the life of a fashion blogger looked ideal! I even had a new blog name to boot-Noted In Style. (I loved Company Magazine, and the editor had a very similar Twitter handle.) I wanted to join these really cool women! (I even got to go to Company HQ.)

But I’m not fashionable. And was mocked for it by some classmates-who really wants to read about what I had to type about clothes?!

But then I discovered Sylvia Plath, and how she had interned at Mademoiselle Magazine. Researching the magazine seemed to suggest a magazine I would have loved-a magazine for women, literary and about fashion. They got to interview the famous people of the day, go to fashion shows, and more! (I wanted to have badly been at Mademoiselle.) Finding an ELLE Columnist cemented that. I would brand this blog as ‘Mademoiselle’. (Women to get the URL.)

I blog daily now, largely because I wanted to challenge myself. I also love to write. But I also wish to be a Journalist, and I wanted to create a platform for me and other bloggers.

Do you have any other questions? Ask me in the comments, and I may answer them-

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A 4 App Album Review.

Good morning-

It has been a while since we had a proper album review, isn’t it?

Well, my dear readers, I wanted to tell you about A 4 App, the first Anastacia app-which was the first thing that I ever downloaded from the Apple Store. Track listing for this is as follows:

  • Resurrection.
  • Overdue Goodbye.
  • Rearview.
  • In Your Eyes.
  • Dark White Girl.
  • The Saddest Part.
  • Who’s Gonna Stop The Rain
  • Pendulum
  • Time
  • Underground Army

For the sake of this review, I would just like to say that, owing to preview on her Facebook page, I was a little bit pessimistic about this album. Parts of the previews seemed a little bit flat at times, and not at all alike to what I remember of her in concert. But I eat my words, because this album is utterly fabulous-and something to be otherwise described as ‘Ear candy’.

Although at times I felt that there could be less talking-on the opener, there’s almost a minute of it, prior to the song-this could have been remedied by a recorded, succinct explanation of the whole A 4 App project. (Because it linked up via her app, etc.) But it captures the in-concert vibe well, in that there is the audience. And they seem to be enjoying a pretty good concert-clapping, stamping their feet, and calling for their hero. That is what a concert is about-the people who turn up, intent on enjoying some pretty good songs.

My favourite tracks are Resurrection (because this makes me feel powerful, and that I can stand tall), Overdue Goodbye (probably the politest ‘F you’ song), Rearview, The Saddest Part, and Underground Army (because this latterly reminds me that we are not alone in this world.) This is a great album-and I had forgotten just how brilliant of a singer Anastacia is, if I’m honest. Her voice is huge, and pretty all at one-just listen to the ‘meeeeee’ note on Who’s Gonna Stop The Rain. If you are a fan, this is a staple to add to your collection.

I rate this 10/15.

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For more Anastacia related content, try clicking these links: Resurrection Show Review , Ultimate Collection Release , Meeting Anatstacia  , Anastacia Interview, and A 4 App Release. Click here to follow Anastacia on Pledge Music, and to find out about future projects.

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What’s In My Blogging Bag?

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Bloggers, I have a general question for you: how much does your idealised bag for blogging differ from reality? Yeah, bit of an odd question that. But for this post I wanted to create what would be my ‘dream’ blogging bag-one that has virtually everything needed, and is small enough to be carted around everywhere. And as you can see, I did cram it quite a lot.

The bag is from eBay-however, I highly doubt that its listing is still up for sale, having had the satchel for a while now. (You can tell by the handle-very tatty, as it is not real leather.) But if you’d like to shop for a very classy satchel, I suggest that you click here to do so.

Anyway….as a point of reference, I had had to cut down on how many photos I upload now, due to almost having reached sixty percent of my total storage on my browser. (Then I would have to pay for more, which I would rather not do.) Also, this post does contain some PR samples… But lets see what’s in the content of this bag.

  • The Bell Jar. I need a book with me at all times! Why? First, because this is something that keeps me occupied on long train journey’s. And besides, I can’t not read them-reading is what I enjoy. (The pages of The Bell Jar are just peeking from inside the pocket.)
  • Filofax. well….if you read this blog regularly, you can see that my Filofax is a regular feature almost. It virtually has everything in it-my blog slots, deadlines, ideas, medication, further progression, etc. And I would be pretty lost without a planner.
  • Purse. Aww, Cats! Got to love a cat! (Can you see why my nickname is ‘Crazy Cat Lady’?) This is where I keep my spare change. It was a purse I bought in Cyprus.
  • Charging block. This was a birthday present, and has been very useful at the best of times, simply so that my phone always has some charge. (How else would I call for help if needed?) I think that this was from Carphone Warehouse, although I may be wrong about that.
  • Phone. I adore my new phone! Having an iPhone 6s for my birthday was a real treat-now I don’t have to wait for web pages to load, or terrible service to reconnect, and I can hear people when I phone them. Sweet!
  • Headphones. Because music is so so good! I finally have used iTunes, and I LOVE to discover new songs, and take them with me wherever I go. (You’ll be seeing more of this on the blog, I promise.)
  • Pen. Because BIC makes my handwriting neat, and I am always in need of a spare pen.
  • Fruu lip balm. This was a PR sample that I received with Little Known Box. (Click here to see my unboxing.) And I LOVE the Mango scent of it-plus, it moisturises my lips well. We all have a stock of lip balms, don’t we, ladies? (Click here to see.)
  • Rings and bracelet. I am terrible, really I am. At the end of the day, I usually take off my jewellery, and put it all in my bag, leaving it to be forgotten about. But Jewellery Box were kind enough to send me a few samples, and I highly recommend them. Click here to see their website!
  • Keys. Ditto.
  • Benecos lipstick (not seen) I’m working with Benecos on a few beauty posts, which I can’t wait for you to see. But their lipsticks are awesome! Creamy in texture, as well as with smooth coverage, what’s not to love? (Click here to go to their website.) I’ll be taking this lipstick with me to special events.
  • Highlighters (also not seen) To colour code my Filofax!

What would you keep in your blogging bag?

 

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I am pleased to announce that I am working with Basic Beauty Tools. If you go to their website via this link , and order the Spongedry, you can get an extra free foundation blender by adding under ‘Note To Seller’ your colour code: LYDIAPINK for pink, LYDIAPURPLE for purple, and LYDIABLACK for black.