Here’s how I struggle with Asperger’s Syndrome…

For all of my posts about Asperger’s Syndrome, I haven’t really posted about what I struggle with, as a direct result of the condition. Because being positive matters, right? (Please don’t tell me otherwise.) But I wanted to post more than just a superficial impression, and what it is I struggle with most.

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People:

People. People! What more is there to say to that, really? ‘People’ is an interesting subject to me-and it’s why I write my column-but for me, it’s something I really do struggle with. I cannot tell how nuanced your emotions are, but what plays out on your face-they are blank to me. I also may not understand what you’re trying to tell me at times. And could you maybe not try and force eye contact with me? It’s really not something I’m great at, and it makes me feel uncomfortable. I also am not really a fan of ‘touching’-but I will come and ask for a hug if needed. I also don’t just want to talk about hair, boys, or make up. That’s not what I’m interested in. I would rather talk about Cold War history, politics, whatever person it is that I’m interviewing, etc.

Noise:

This is a funny one, considering I love music, review concerts for my blog and column, and adore Rock. But noise I don’t have control over has a detrimental affect-such as cutlery banging, polystyrene squeaking, metal scrapping, chairs falling, doors slamming suddenly, etc. Don’t call me out, saying that “it’s not noisy in here”. Because to me it is. And it has an affect-I can’t think, my thoughts when travelling to my mouth get jumbled, and it sometimes affects my balance. (Too much overstimulation over a long period of time means I find simple tasks hard, even just gripping things.)

Academia:

I’m lucky to have had help, but a classroom is an environment I find really difficult. If information is relayed too quickly by a teacher, I may miss some things. I can also misinterpret what they may say. And at younger institutions-such as Primary school-there was always so much talking. I can’t always pay attention to both.

Organisation:

Here’s something for you; I may be the most organised person in the room, when it comes to managing deadlines and other projects. But I’m really messy. And I find managing time a chore. Balancing this blog with my want to study has been a problem at times. And my bedroom always looks as if a bomb has hit it. But I’ll probably make whatever homework deadline there is.

Thank you for listening,

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Pet Peeves At A Concert; A Rant Coming Up!

Good morning!
Recently, I was lucky enough to be able to see Emeli Sande live in concert, thanks to a very generous offer of press tickets. But whilst I was there, a few things really annoyed me, whilst trying to enjoy a good concert. So, but if a grumpy post today, but here are my pet peeves at a concert:
The person always on their phone.

Throughout the concert, they will be on Facebook, Instagram, even Snapchat. And only part of this is to document the concert going on in front of them. The huge, lumimous screen is the distraction-seemingly exarcebated by the darkness a concert usually takes place in. Can’t we just enjoy it, without technology, for once? Like back when Rock concerts were a full foot-stamping-sing-along affair? Because that looks far more entertaining and enjoyable.

People moving about the row.
Or even just walking out. There’s probably a clearer cut exit path than having to bumble down one fully packed out row. Instead of going through a throng of people, and treading in their toes, why not go out the right way?

Hecklers
At a stand up concert, the put downs can be rather funny. (Look up Jimmy Carr vs Blonde Women on YouTube if you don’t believe me!) But at a concert? I remember seeing Anastacia back in 2015, yet whilst she was talking-due to a Q&A feature of the Resurrection tour-a group were constantly heckling her, meaning we couldn’t hear her. It’s not funny! And it was all really crude axioms, seemingly sexual, that were being shouted. I wish for the artist to be in control, and to enjoy their show. Heckling is not very funny at a rock concert.
Playing your own music.
You pay decent money to watch a show, but then there’s always one person who gets their phone out, in order to play their own music, usually during the middle of a song. Why?! Just Why?! We come to hear the artist, often on in a quite pricey ticket, not your rap music that’s muffled in its sound. Turn it off, sit down, and enjoy the show. You won’t annoy anyone, promise.

Feet on seats.

Why is it acceptable to put your feet up on the back of somebody else’s chair? Even if there is very limited leg room, I don’t wish to smell your stinky shoes, or to be annoyed at you kicking my chair. Besides, you can always stamp your feet in time to the beat on the floor.
What are your pet peeves at a concert?
Lydia
XO

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