Why I’m Starting To Dislike Social Media…

Please be warned that this post is a bit of a rant, and I may sound unreasonable at times.

Social media. Oh, social media. I have defended you, loved you, and become a fan in equal measure. But I am REALLY SICK of how you’re being used. More specifically; to spread drama, create rumours, and adding ‘fake news’ to the mix. All you seem to do is spread ill will.

I use Twitter and Instagram, to keep in touch with people I know, as well as to promote my blog, this little space on the internet. And it has bought me a wealth of experiences, all of which I am truly grateful for. It contributes to my readership, brands working with me, blog comments, garnering guest posters, getting a favourite writer to follow me, and it keeps me informed of new releases-be it books, albums, monopoly, etc. All is well.

But it’s just so divisive. And I’m starting to dislike social media.

Since when was it ever okay to film someone on Snapchat, without their consent? Post in the same vein on Facebook? Tweet our MP’s death threats? Spread homophobic abuse? Judge other people’s choices? Troll brands? Troll people? Create ‘fake news’? And-for want of another word-slag  off other bloggers? When was any of this every okay, or deemed acceptable to post?

I’m tired of this. So, so tired.

To use social media to harass, bully, demean is disgusting behaviour. And I’m fed up with seeing Blogger pit themselves against each other. I’m sick of seeing an electorate sprout untruths and wish ill will on their representatives. I feel sick to my stomach at all of this. We have to be better than this.

And this fake news. FAKE NEWS! Where, just WHERE is the gain in spreading complete lies? And Facebook has even rolled out a guide as how to spot it.

Technology could be used to better ourselves-start a blog, keep in contact with people you know and love, keep up to date with current affairs. But express whatever opinion you have so that it’s measured. No one should be made to feel afraid. No one should be made to feel isolated.

 

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The Lebister Award.

Whew! good morning. You’ll probably think that today’s post is really self centred, pretentious, but Blog Awards are a great way for Bloggers to connect, hence why I’m writing this for today. I was nominated by Daniella, whose blog you can read by clicking here.  For this post, you have to:

  • Post eleven personal facts
  • Answer the 11 set questions
  • Nominate 11 bloggers with a further 11 questions, whilst tagging them.

Sounds easy, right? Here goes-and my eleven facts are:

1.I was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome in January 2015. Although that seems a long time ago, it really is not, in taking into consideration how long it took me to get diagnosed. (Because, well, to be blunt, it’s really obvious. I was the ‘different one’, the ‘freak’ who was picked on at various times. How horrible.) But I see it as ‘my job’ to raise awareness-because why should anyone be picked on?

2.The last book I read was called The Spy, based on the life of Mata Hari.

3.My hero is Jacqueline Kennedy, because she was a well educated woman, and restored the White House, spoke several languages, and was a book editor for the last twenty years of her life. *I’m always asked about her style-but I like her substance.

4.I LOVE Rock music-Queen, Genesis, Dire Straits…

5.You’ll probably find me in a library, enamoured with a dozen or more books, looking for something to read. (Or maybe with my cat, also reading.)

6.The first record I bought was A Night At The Opera (Queen) in a shop, and Resurrection (Anastacia) online. Quite the contradiction!

7.Of all the people that I wish to interview, Brian May, Queen guitarist and all around really cool person, tops the top of my list. (RT this, and @ him, okay? Ha ha!) I did meet him once, and he seems like somebody who could tell you a good story or two.

8.Funnily enough, my first cohesive memory is of listening to Queen-You’re My Best Friend. (who said I was a fan girl?!!)

9.I love to talk about politics, having taken it as one of my three A levels. Whilst I know that it can be polarising-just look at Brexit!-I think that we have a duty to hold those in power to account, and to be well informed.

10.Feminist? Yes.

11. In spite of the fact that I juggle being a full time student, a blogger, and a columnist-meaning that I have to be VERY organised-I am a very messy person.

And now for the set questions from Daniella to answer! (Still with me?)

  • Why did you start blogging? I saw an article in Shout Magazine, which was a place I could take refugee in, being a lonely pre-teen. (Not a lot has changed.) It looked really cool-and a way to write-so, with the permission of my parents, I jumped in1
  • Who inspires you, not just in the blogging world but in life? Oh lummy, that’s a tough one. Jacqueline Kennedy is my hero, but I am also inspired by Anastacia (I created my own version of one of her outfits recently), Brian May for being just a really cool person, Caitlin Moran for the way she writes, Jodi Picoult for the way she writes and tackles issues, and Lesley Ann Jones, the lovely and supremely cool rock journalist and author.
  • What social media app do you find you use the most for your blogging? WordPress to write posts from, Twitter to post.
  • One thing you are most scared of in life? Dying? (Yeah, about that…) I do believe that there is a God-because there just must be more to life than this-but I don’t want to have wasted the time I have on Earth. Oh and the Tube. Too many people-it’s an ASD thing.
  • Do you prefer a night in with friends or a night out on the town? Depends on the mood I’m in. I prefer town because I can go down to Brighton, and get lost for hours. Everything exciting seems to happen there! But I love to host Netflix evenings.
  • What topics do you blog about most and why? Too many to count! Lifestyle encompasses a lot-so books and autism, I guess. I love books-and you can never be lonely with a book-and Autism, well to raise awareness. 
  • Do you find the blogging community supportive? Largely yes. I won’t elaborate as to the ‘no’.
  • If you were an animal, what would it be and why? Always a cat-I love cats!-and my nickname is the crazy cat lady. Apt, no?
  • What is your favourite genre of music? Rock.
  • What’s the bravest thing you’ve done in the past week or so? Probably talking to a lecturer with eye contact, and I managed not to feel anxious at all. (Eye contact is a hallmark for those on the spectrum.) I also can find it hard to interpret what they mean. And yes-I’m being neutral in case they are reading this. But they are such a good teacher-it’s just me being me 🙂 This is something that I find happens frequently, in that I cannot maintain eye contact, but it is something I am overcoming. 
  • Do you prefer savoury or sweet treats? SWEET!

The Eleven Bloggers I wish to tag:

Kimberly Jessica

Country Katie Uk

This Stuff Is Golden

Lisa Kallas

A Beautiful Caos

Freya Creech

Youralmostalice

Envy Fisher

Grace Brown

Blogger Badger (Emily)

Faz

And anyone else who wishes to do so!

My questions for you:

  1. How do you keep organised, in terms of a planner?
  2. Ice cream-yay or nay?
  3. Manicure or pedicure?
  4. Apple or Samsung?
  5. First album you bought?
  6. What motivated you and why to start blogging?
  7. Dream job as a child?
  8. Would you call yourself a feminist?
  9. Who is your role model?
  10. And hero?
  11. Pineapple on pizza-yes or no?

Until tomorrow,

Lydia

XO

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Blogger Recognition Award 

I was nominated by Chloe-Rose at What Chloe Wrote for this post; click here to see her version of this post. Here’s my version, and thank you to Chloe-Rose for nominating me!


The Rules:

  • Thank the blogger publicly-on social media-as well as with a link in your post.
  • Give a brief story about how you started your blog.
  • Tag fifteen bloggers, and link to them, as well as tag them, letting them know they have been nominated.

Here goes!

Why did I start my blog?

There wasn’t a particular reason for why I wanted to start this blog, to be honest. I’d seen an editorial in Shout Magazine, where to pre-teen me, everything looked really glamorous. I kept the ‘How To Blog’ guide for a few years, then I asked my parents if I could blog. (I was very young, after all!) I think it was also because I wished to write-when I started to become more interested in Journalism as a career-as to why I began to blog. 

I nominate:

Lydia

XO

Beauty Blogger Tag (From Chloe-Rose!)


I was conversing with Chloe-Rose, over at What Chloe Wrote. Having read her Beauty Blogger Tag post, and admired it, she encouraged me to answer her set questions. Here goes! (I copied her questions, which aren’t mine, and will be answering them.) And don’t forget to visit her blog-click here to view

What make up product can’t you live without?

Gotta be my Topshop Magic Liner-it truly is magic! I also love it, because as somebody who is very shortsighted, it seems to be designed as to not stab me. Always a bonus!

Favourite hair care product?

Probably T-gel.


Favourite perfume?

See, this is quite a hard question, since I don’t really wear a lot of perfume. I have a Coco Mademoiselle knock-off, though. (Going with the blog name, I liked the smell regardless!) Probably Wonderstruck by Taylor Swift.


Why did you start blogging?

I saw an editorial in Shout Magazine, way back in 2012. Therefore, I simply wanted to join in.


What do you love most about blogging?

The people. Always the people. Whether it’s another blogger, a reader, a PR, publicist, etc, they always make my day-because I love to work with them, and they all leave me lovely comments at times. They are also so kind on Twitter. 


Favourite celebrity style?

Hmmm…I don’t really follow Celebrity style 😂 I prefer my own-or people from history, such as Jacqueline Kennedy. 


Must follow on instagram?

@AnastaciaMusic. I love her red touring jacket.

Lipstick or lipgloss?

Lipstick, always! 


My questions are:

  • Where do you see your blog in five years?
  • Who is your style icon?
  • Top three lip products?
  • What do you love about beauty best of all?
  • Heels or flats?
  • Opinion about Celebrity perfumes?
  • Last impulse buy?
  • Favorite lipstick?


I nominate Kimberly Jessica, Lauren at This Stuff Is Golden, Country Katie UK, New York Cliche, and Calli.

Post to you soon,

Lydia

XO


Why I dislike having my photo taken..


Photos. Photos. Photos. Uggghhhh.

I really dislike having my photo taken. And as a warning, this post was written as a ‘rant’-although I’m trying to be logical and balanced. That’s a possible fail.

Anyway, back to the topic; I dislike having my photo taken. I really detest it-the awkwardness, coupled with the fact that it’ll possibly be put on display-be it a byline photo, your parents mantelpiece, newspaper, etc. (The latter one was a particular ‘favourite’; me smiling with a rather large tongue stuck out. How embarrassing.)

In my lifetime, there’s been a general increase in technological culture;you’re reading this blog right now, for instance. We Instagram, tweet, Facebook, email, read e-books. Essentially, we move electronically, in amongst this huge field of data. But what happens with such a thing as trolling?

In spite of the fact that I’m a blogger, my life is still private to me; I have every right to maintain my privacy. I may write about my social impairment, yet you don’t know intimate details of that. You don’t know my friendships, my likes or dislikes, what I eat for dinner, etc. 

Plus, I’m just awkward. And there’s so much time between posing and snapping!

Caitlin Moran wrote the brilliant piece about why she doesn’t just smile, but brings out her ‘Muppet face’ for photos-simply because it proves the point she isn’t static, but rather alive and kicking. But I think I’ve used that trick for too long-I’m told to smile more often, stand up straight, etc. The mullet face isn’t going to work any more.

As long as I’m laughing, I’m happy, just not comfortable in photos.

What do you think about having your photo taken?

Lydia

XO

In defence of social media. 

Looking back over a few of my posts, I’ve begun to think and feel that my writing has become a little bit constrained-almost stilted, to the point that it’s a little bit bland. There’s no real opinion-just a middle ground-or any real engagement. Therefore, for the purpose of this post, I wanted to debate the merits of social media-and would love to hear your thoughts in the comments, ironically enough. (It’ll also probably be a bit of an odd opinion piece; after all, I’m a blogger writing this!)

In recent times, Social Media seems to have reached its pinnacle: there’s new filters on Snapchat, we hear about a young girl tweeting from Aleppo, and the crisis ostensibly surrounding ‘Fake news’. Really, it seems to have seeped into just about every function that we have. 

I find that social media can be heavily criticised, particularly if anyone is perceived as always interacting with it. There’s ostensibly too many cat photos, memes, etc-that apparently make the whole form a waste of time. It seemingly doesn’t achieve greatly, in terms of interactions. It’s just a communication function, right?

Wrong.

In referencing The Big Life by Ann Shoket, out in March, social media and other forms of technology has helped transform services and careers dramatically. Instead of randomly tweeting cute dog photos, to nobody in particular, these people in pursuit of The Big Life have built a career on the back of social media-such as with beauty vloggers, Journalists, bloggers, etc. Surely that’s incredible? These entrepreneurs are of a new generation, and have utilised a new asset to transform the careers sector.

It’s also a new way of digesting media; in covering a crisis, you’ll probably find more out about it on Twitter, Snapchat, whatever. (Although this does bring in the issue of fake news, this mode is authentic in its pace, reception, and transmission.) It’ll be a while prior to major new websites and newspapers breaking the story. And maybe this new journalism could be a good thing-in raising awareness, and keeping world leaders to account. (Just keep in mind about fake news-excerise caution in reading.)

To me, social media is a huge asset-and I write this as a blogger, a teenager, a student, and a high functioning autistic. As long as it’s utilised in the right way, we may just get somewhere.

What do you think about social media? Leave your thoughts in the comments-

Lydia

XO